Do you struggle as a newbie blogger? If so, you’re definitely NOT alone! Any newbie who is passionate about blogging knows how much of an emotional roller coaster it can be.
How many of you wake up in the AM excited to see if you have any new Pinterest followers or if some big shot group board admin is letting you sit at her table? If you say you don’t, I don’t believe you!
If Pinterest isn’t your thing, insert any social media platform you use to promote your work. It’s tough as a new blogger to get noticed and we all want instant results.
Sure, there are bloggers who have success right out of the gates but for most of us it takes a bit (or a lot) longer and patience is key!
It’s a not a sprint! It’s a marathon!
I know there are a lot of you who have the same pro bloggers dream as me. I want to escape the 9-5, work on my terms, and post my heart out while on a gondola ride in Italy (too much?!).
This burning desire has me putting in some serious hours. It also has me feeling pure glee in one moment and super discouraged the next. You know the feeling!
So, how do we survive all this madness? I’ve been using some survival skills that are working and I want to share them with you! They’ve been key in being able to get up and brush the dust off. They keep me motivated and remind me to have grace for myself.
I know they will help you too!
So, without further ado here are the top 9 survival skills for us newbie bloggers:
1) PRACTICE SELF-COMPASSION
Forget the caffeine – it’s self-compassion that will keep you chugging along! When you feel like throwing in the towel self-compassion is crucial. It allows you to keep going after dreams. When you give yourself permission to not be perfect you’re able to keep putting yourself out there.
It’s hard to put a lot of work into a blog post only to get no recognition for it. We want people to like our work and it feels good to have it shared. When there’s total crickets after posting something you worked hard on it SUCKS. You might feel embarrassed and/or discouraged. Having your hard work not be recognized is also a serious confidence killer and often results in a LOT of negative talk.
Please remember that you’re trying the best you can and that it takes a TREMENDOUS amount of guts to put your work out there in the world!!! Sharing your blog with everyone is allowing yourself be vulnerable and vulnerability one of the most courageous things you do!
If you haven’t heard Brene Brown’s TED talk on the power of vulnerability do yourself a favor and watch it immediately! It’s a sure way to get you to brush the dust off and feel good about your efforts!
Practicing self-care will help you with being compassionate toward yourself.
2) REMIND YOURSELF THAT ALL THE “GREATS” START SOMEWHERE!
The pro bloggies started EXACTLY where you are right now. While they might make it look effortless it’s because they’ve put the work in to get it to that point.
The “greats” STILL put in a tremendous amount of work – consistently creating new content and all the other blogging responsibilities takes time even for those at the top of their game.
Be consistent in your efforts and you WILL be a pro too!
“Every beginner possess a great potential to be an expert in his or her chosen field” – Lailah Gifty Akita
Grit gets a bad wrap because it’s often associated with a huge amount or discomfort (nose to the grindstone mentality). Even the word “grit” sounds brutal!
Grit is not about putting in an obscene amount of hours and over caffeinating yourself to stay up all night. So, what is grit? It’s about passion, consistency, practice, and effort.
In any creative endeavor there will be highs and lows – times for celebration and times where you want to quit. As newbie bloggers we need to keep plugging away and great results WILL follow!
Check out this TED talk on the topic of GRIT
Related: 4 Ways to Crush Your Biggest Goals
4) REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED BLOGGING IN THE FIRST PLACE
My bet is that many of you started blogging because you felt passionate about a niche or topic. Maybe you love to write and blogging was a way to get your writing out there in the world.
“Do what you love and you will find a way to get it out there in the world” – Judy Collins
Want to know something funny? When I started my blog I didn’t even know that making money blogging was even possible. I started blogging because of my love for all things related to personal growth and because I love to write. Now that I know I can turn blogging into a career I’m very motivated to make that happen.
BUT even if I knew I would never make a cent off my blog I would still do it because I love it. I remind myself of why I started blogging if the first place when I feel overwhelmed and discouraged about how to make money and turn it into a career.
“What I do for my work is exactly what I would do if nobody paid me” – Elizabeth Gilbert
If you started blogging with the sole purpose of making money that’s 100% ok too! However, it can be stressful when money is the sole focus – especially because as a newbie blogger you’re probably not raking in the dough yet!
Whatever your reason for starting a blog think about an aspect you love about it to get you through a tough newbie blogger moment.
5) BE SOCIAL
The blogging world can be a lonely place. It requires long hours alone and can be quite difficult for an extroverted and social new blogger.
It’s crucial that you make socialization a priority! While you might be making connections with others online it can’t take the place of face to face interactions.
Failing to follow through on this survival tip is a sure way to burn out, dislike blogging, and throw in the towel!
Additionally, when you have this face to face time PLEASE put your phone away. It’s SO tempting to check your Pinterest to see if your pin was shared (or whatever social media platform you use).
I don’t need to tell you how rude it is to be on your phone while socializing. Maintaining face to face interactions will fill up your cup, which in turn will give you the stamina to keep plugging away at your blog.
Let me repeat – online connections can’t take the place of real, in person interaction!!!
Scientific research shows that loneliness can be as lethal as smoking!
6) TALK TO YOURSELF LIKE YOU WOULD A FRIEND
What would you say to your best friend who is a newbie blogger?
Would you say encouraging words to him/her when they were feeling frustrated and overwhelmed? I bet the answer is a resounding YES!
I highly doubt you would tell them they suck and are a fool to think they could be a successful blogger (or insert anything negative thing you’ve said to yourself).
Be KIND to yourself and talk to yourself like you would a friend! We’re new at this blogging thing and CAN become successful (whatever success means to you!).
Please check out this clip on self-compassion from the self-compassion researcher, Kristin Neff
She also has a great self compassion quiz to test how self-compassionate you are.
7) EAT AND HYDRATE YOURSELF
This might sound ridiculous to some of you but I’m being serious. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I get so immersed blogging that hours go by and I realize I forgot to eat or drink anything.
I’m kind of embarrassed to say it but it’s true. Keep some water on hand and set reminders to take care of your needs.
While it’s necessary to follow this survival tip it typically indicates you’re in the mental state of flow which is a good thing! Flow is when you are totally immersed in an activity. It’s a good indicator you’re on the right path and doing something that you love!
8) SHARE THE LOVE!! (sharing is caring!)
I can’t stress this one enough!!!!!!! (or put enough exclamation points behind that sentence!) Comment on blog posts you liked, share posts, and follow people who’s work you like! Everyone is just trying to do the best they can and can use the support!
I’ve made it a habit to share the love when a fellow pintrestee shares my pin. I try my best to follow them and share their work too!
It feels good to feel supported and is so motivating when your post is shared! Please do the same for others!
AND let’s not forget about the law of attraction! Whatever you are putting out will come back to you. Share the love and you will receive the same!
9) TAKE BREAKS!
This is one I seriously struggle with – A LOT!
My husband has made comments about me being obsessed with blogging and I agree with him.
However, taking breaks (even short ones) is 100% necessary. It can be completely overwhelming writing content, checking social media, scheduling pins, creating pins, looking at the various analytics, reading articles on monetization (or 1000 other things blog related), etc., etc., ETC.!
Even if you’re TOTALLY obsessed with your blog (it’s your baby!) taking breaks allows you to replenish yourself.
Go for a walk, connect with other humans (blogging can get lonely), or whatever activity of choice and step away for a bit. You’re blog will always be there waiting for you upon your return.
On that note, I’m taking my break. Admittedly, I’ve put in a solid, straight 4 hours in blog land this AM. If you liked this post I always love comments. If you REALLY liked this post, share it and follow me on Pinterest!
As newbie bloggers, lets support each other!
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I always like to end with an affirmation. Lets affirm –
I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be on this creative journey!